I recommend this blog from Katie Laurel Smith
The prize never chases.
The ego is activated by the aloof or emotionally unavailable potential partner option because it wants to feel specialness by earning that disinterested person’s affection.
What if you are the prize instead, and you are worthy of love, and the right one will pursue you? Flip it around.
You do you, and shine your light—it will be recognized by those who are on the same frequency, and that’s ultimately who will challenge and elevate you in all the right ways in partnership and vice versa.
Let go of the dance of egos. And the moths of darkness that will also inevitably be drawn to your flame.
Never chase. Invite. And then open the door to your heart when the right one knocks.